“Never watch porn, it will damage your coitus life” – Man married for seven years advises married men
A Nigerian man has taken to micro-blogging platform, Twitter, to dish out some marital advice to married men and soon-to-be husbands.
@RowlyDaDon recently celebrated his seventh wedding anniversary with his wife and mother of his two kids and decided to share seven pieces of marriage advice with people.
Read his full post as shared on Monday, July 4,
“1. Never compare your wife to another woman, in any area whatsoever.
Even if it is your mother, Never make that mistake.
This is also applicable to ladies who especially compare their partners to their dads or other men they once dated.
It is the wrongest thing to do.
If you do this, that relationship won’t see the light of day. It will only end in frustration.
When you do this, it only demoralizes & dampens your partner especially when you say it. It kills the spark in that marriage.
Most times you think it, but stop.
Avoid it at all cost.
2. Never hide your finances from your spouse
You could think you are keeping more money to yourself by doing this but you aren’t.
If your wife is a prudent, truthful & not an overly spending woman like my wife, then pls expose it all to her.
3. Always be truthful to your spouse about your friends of the opposite sex
The moment you start hiding your friends of the opposite sex or someone you have been engaging without his/her knowledge, you are already laying the bed of cheating & adultery.
It is just a matter of time.
4. Never raise your voice on your wife, Never
In all you do, Never do this. It psychologically & mentally weakens your partner, killing the spark between you two.
Even if you are right, sometimes keep quiet until it all goes down. I know it is tough but you can do it.
5. Never watch Porn
You might be tempted to want to learn one or two things from porn to spice up to sex life or learn a few things.
Trust me, that thing will only damage your sex life.
Remember sex involves more of your mind & soul that your physical body, this is same as porn.
It would seem like you’re learning 1 or 2 things but it is a lie cos the thing you claim you learnt, you won’t be able to practice it cos your partner isn’t a pornstar.
However, your mind has been damaged by your expectations not being met; there is a urge to fulfil it.
Then you start looking out for other means of fulfilment.
The video is stuck in your mind & renders you unproductive & you could begin to find your partner unattractive; hence, not as aroused as you ought to subsequently.
Run away from Porn.
6. Manage In-law Relationship well
Never allow any in-law talk down or talk poorly about your wife even in her absence even if it’s your own parent. Never allow it.
Address it on the spot whenever it happens.
Don’t respect anybody enough for your partner to be dragged in the mud or like tiger gen.
7. Your partner should always be your priority
When kids come into the picture, attention will be shared; however, always be conscious of this & never let it affect your primary relationship with your spouse. Never.
Your kids will leave you one day. He/She will remain by your side & then your eyes will clear. Don’t lose that closeness & affection. Let it get stronger & better.”
7 RAW PRACTICAL LESSONS FROM MY 7 YEARS OF MARRIAGE
To all who wished me a HWA & congratulated me, I want to say Thank You & God bless you.
I promised I was going to drop this today & they are lessons I personally experienced & not from others.I bet they will bless you. 👇
— DON “Tobechukwu” Ade (@Row_Haastrup) July 4, 2022