Lady advises Women to treat their Mother-in-Law well
While decrying the rate at which most modern wives disrespect and demean their mother-in-law, a Nigerian mother has advised women to show love to them as they are just part of their family.
In a Facebook post, the woman identified as Mrs Vivian Emesaraonye Dimgba referred to the story of a woman who never wanted her mother-in-law around because she stinks and has nail fungus.
Vivian said in a family where love exists, this statement should have never been uttered by the young wife.
Read her full post below:
My husband’s maternal grand dad died not too long ago. Before his death, he had memory loss. But he remembers my mother- in- law, who happens to be his first daughter. He was over 100, but very strong. He’ll walk from his house in the village , to ours for breakfast every morning.
One of those mornings, I was in my mother-in-laws shop when he came. I noticed his feet was peeling badly, and his toe nails were more like talons. I asked him if I could do a pedicure on him, but I’m sure he didn’t get a word I said.
Anyway, I got dettol, soap, water, razor, and everything I needed, and went about my task with much determination. It was as if he knew, because he stayed still till I finished. He had bruises too which I cleaned and treated. His toe nails had over a year old dirt stuck in it. When I was done, I got a cream and moisturised his legs.
This happened shortly before he died. For an old man, he wasn’t even smelling right. But I always felt drawn to him, because he looked a lot like my husband. And of course my husband always talked about the wonderful memories he had growing up with his grandpa.
This same frail old man, loved and pampered him, and also made sure he had everything he needed. He was king for the period he lived with his grandpa. I think that’s probably why he also turned out quite different ..with a lot of good, and very open minded . Cleaning his feet was nothing compared to just how much I’ve been blessed by his family.
I’m writing this because of the story on madam Cynthia Valerian Raphaels wall. A woman who didn’t want her mother- in- law around when she has her baby, because the woman always criticised her dressing, and has nail fungus.
In a place where love and empathy thrives, That shouldn’t be a problem. Nail fungus is treatable, and the other thing you can handle with a lot of wisdom. It’s just a couple of weeks and mama will go.
I’m going to be a mother in law someday. I might not always smell right, or look great. I honestly pray when the time comes, may God blesses me with a daughter- in- law, who will treat me right and love me, just as I’ve loved my mother- in – law.
You see all these Instagram girls, are accidents waiting to happen. The entitlement mentality is out of this world. There are a thousand ways she could’ve phrased it. A thousand ways she could’ve presented her matter. She forgets, the baby is only 50 percent hers, and the other 50 belongs to her husband. Now she’s wondering why he’s not talking to her. I don’t know how to pray die die prayer, but for this generation.. I’m going to learn it.
You can’t come and kill me.. When I didn’t kill my own mother- in-law. You don’t own your husband. You don’t own your wife. They belonged somewhere before you hitched up with them. Marriage doesn’t change that.