Nigerian Feminist reveals she regrets getting Married at the Age she did

A Nigerian lady identified as Florida Uzoaru is going viral on social media after she took to the platform to give a detailed narration on why she regrets getting married and having a child at the time she did.

Florida who tags herself a ‘bitter feminist’ on Twitter, revealed that she had always been a career woman and having a child at the time she did slowed down a lot of things for her. She went on to state that she even considered divorcing her husband at some point, just to follow her dreams of being more than a wife and mother.

She narrated: “I knew I was a career-driven woman! I knew I wasn’t all that excited about getting married. I knew children weren’t my favorable thing on earth. But building a career I wanted seemed to take too long & I was impatient. I wasn’t going to get married.

Then I met Le Boo & only fell in love. This was the first time in my life I was liking a man who liked me more than I liked him. I generally go for unavailable men, men who aren’t sure of me etc. If a man “loves me too much”, he’s not challenging & so I didn’t want him

I got married & immediately wanted a child, cos that’s the natural progression, isn’t it. Had my baby and almost immediately regretted it. Actually I started regretting it from the time I got pregnant. It was if I temporarily lost my marbles. Regardless, I made the decision. This was not an unplanned pregnancy. I wanted the child. I did everything I could to get the child, and now I have him. Thus, I was going to be the very best mother I could for this child, who didn’t beg me to have him.

She went further to state although she love and appreciates her husband who she says has been the one holding down the marriage, she still regrets getting married at the age she did, which she revealed was 30.

When she realized that she wanted to be more than a mother and a wife, she resolved to go for her master’s program in the UK and went on to apply for the program without the consent of her husband.

When she got admitted, she told her husband who was very much displeased with her decision as he wanted to have another child. Florida who already felt shackled with one child revealed she refused.

According to her post, he threatened her about not having any more kids if she went ahead with her plans of schooling in the UK of which she was pleased. She went on to pursue the program in the UK. She finished and started her plans of pursuing a PhD program.

It was at this point she considered divorce as she believed her husband was always going to be a problem in her pursuit of success.

She revealed that she still loved him but wanted more for herself as she didn’t consider herself a family woman.

She, however, changed her mind and returned to Nigeria with her husband who had been the one taking care of their son. Following her return, Florida revealed that her husband stopped putting up a fight and allowed her follow her dreams.

Florida who reveals that she never plays with the happiness of her son stated that she takes him everywhere with her out of guilt of not wanting him initially.

She, however, maintained that although she is happy with her life, she probably wouldn’t have gotten married nor had a child at the time she did.